Snow is melting
Wife called early in the morning, she is questioning me why not call back last night when she hang on the phone. actually, when we finish the conversation last night, it was close to 1 am and I was told to think it over, so, I took a shower and back to normal. but she called. more aggrestive and more irrationale.I wasn't plan to reveal anything, but to point out the trigger - the tipping point of turning the never ending qurrel - to be honest, I didn't start the fire and I didn't fight back, but listen, the only and last message I sent was : Why not think about the good thing I did for her, this is another challenge , she insisited that my compensation of love is not a fair thing, because it give her a feeling of I am make up what's been done to her, then she raised her voice and torn all the paper , recall her uncomfortable feeling from day 1, it's been 20 years, I never heard her trun voice. I apprecaite this chance, although this is tough for me, very sharp. but I tried to understand her feeling.
Coffee at the Sony Music Japan neighborhood is a good session, Good friend always back you up, she use her great mind and come up with a simply solution map : 2 family ( me and my parent ) one house consisit of this difficulty, the easiest way is to sell the houre, replaceing with 2 apartment, then the condition will change, as this is an external factor, once we remove it from her heart, she can stand on the same level and tried to think as a person. otherwise, what's been done from me will never sovle her pain, the fundemental solution is sell the house, I am a little bit hesitate to make such a decision, as I thought the house we own is the ultimate goal in life, but now I understand, this is only a process , a house will never be a purpose in life. taking care of people you love in life is such an important mission, you have to be decent in every step. this is nothing but the truth, this is not something like Strategy in life, but an action I am willing to take. I really appreciate to have friend like her, a good friend. nothing less and nothing more.
Itoh 88 seems in fond of my proposal, I will wait and see how to develop the lable, I can sense the success when seeing the young 15 years old Jazz Pianoist. lunch at Flu, what a great Frech restaurant and what a coincedent agian, we though of have lunch over the same restaurant. this is fate, and we really enjoy life. Cet La Vie.
Calling wife from Tokyo airport and deliver the message of selling the house, she accpect my good heart, but insisit not to generate bigger trouble for me. such a nice girl, and her attitude changed dramatically, this is not a stratage, but a truth, a truth to solve her pain.
Arriving Beijing by 10:15 pm, Mark sent his driver to airport to pick me up. call wife again, and I know everything back to normal, since there's no confidence crisis, there's no such a thing like re-build her confidence. Will is Power, I send the messge to think C. she save my life, what a day and what a trip.
posted by Roger @ 3/01/2006 11:59:00 下午
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