Diary of a CEO

Setting 4 prerequisite with Fruit, it's hard to develop interactive communication with her, as her early rebel stage, I am not sure if the method I approach with help her or not, when received phone from my wife yesterday afternoon, I call Fruit up and made an appointment with her in late night, I told her I will be late for the appointment and wish her wait for me.

I arrived by 10 pm and asked her to come down to the living room, I send my wife back to our room, I will to conduct this itimancy between me and my daughter, she close the door for communication, I can't really know what's in her mind, yes, I am not in the position to learn everything she thought, but to deliver my assistant and helping her fine tune the relationship with the family, with her mother and with the people she contact everyday; since she talked so little , by nodding her head to show her agree and disagree to my preaching, I am a little bit angry and feel frustration, it will never be a health way to communicate if you met someone with this negative attitude.

in order to make my statement clear, I address 4 important line for her to think :

1. thinking why her study getting worst these days and why she can't concentrate on school ? What make her distance from study and why there's no interest stayed ?
2. Learn how to protect her body, as period comes and she is physically mature for pragency,she must know how to prevent her to be a teenage mother, she will never be ready and independence to be the mother before 18, and she is only 12 years old, don't be fooled or cheated by man who want her body only and be realistic to the pain and trauma if abortion arrived.
3. Know what's love and what's fantasy, don't dream about the love in romantic way, as the same age, boy don't develop the maturity as girl and don't know the responsibly about true love.
4. Think who in the family willing to help her when she needed, willing to communicate and embrace her when she's in trouble and how to cherish the happiness she owns now, her good friend in class are the same age as her, no one can physically helping her when she really in need, who will offer her food . Money. Shelter ...

I stop sing off the ' Parent contact book " from yesterday, as this is the only thing she concern about and I value to her is nothing but to sing-off for teacher's review and bring her to good meal on weekend, other than this, I meant nothing to her, this make me so sorrow, I told her , my value to her is means this, then I will never wanted to sing on the contact book , she cared only her teacher's opinion and instruction, but perform totally different at home.

I wrote a long letter to her teacher and asked my wife to bring it over to the class this morning, my purpose for stop sign-off is to train her be independence and make her think hard about the relationship with the family, personal accountability and changer from her bottom of the heart; I will check the status from time to time, as I wrote in the letter, I am not sure if the method I took is in the right direction, but I am running out of good incentive to change her, as I told all my colleague, I can't change anybody unless someone have the desire to change themselves.

Wife asked me to consult with my teacher classmate and dealing with a tough situation, when should I prepare the birth control bill for her , will it too early to exercise it, will it impact on her physical an sociological growth.

posted by Roger @ 5/19/2004 12:01:00 下午