Last night was a long time for me, I spend 2 more hours communicate with my father, he seems to me a stranger for quite a long time, We haven’t been talk decently for a long long time, although during the Chinese New Year, I brought the whole family to Hunan and visit his hometown and stay there enjoy the first Chinese New Year in China, I thought that's the ice breaking trip, it seems OK, when returned , we did good communication for a while, until the break up between My wife and his ante in law in China; as I really want to tight the family under one roof, to bring back the intimacy as a 3 generation family, so I wrote him a letter, a letter I called it close up of my father, an observation for a son for 40 years, I list 7 points of his irresponsible as a father, a husband and a family person, who escape from a man's responsibility and live his own life, Yes. this is not polite letter to an old man at 80, but, I want to be honest to my true feeling, to face the family problem before it's too late, before everybody feel guilty.
I don't know what the result will be, but 2 hours of open-heart communication, it's taught for me, as I stated in the last sentence of the letter, I won't escape from it as well, next step, I will do the same to my mother, who the intimacy is a distance to me for couple of years; I don't want to change anything, but want to be a mirror , letting family people reflect to his or her behavior as honest , as close, as truth as possible, I don't have big dream but to keep the family live happily under the same roof, my wife, my parent, my kids, this is what I want. a simple dream.
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