That is a crazy party, almost half of our company Staff, get together and enjoy great food on a country yard restaurant, that's the brother restaurant located in Chinsang ( gold mountain ) which I've introduce to lot of my friend, there are 7 tables, we drunk 52 bottle of Taiwan Beer and 3 18 years old Mcclan -- Scottish single maul whisky, we stay there until 10 minutes after 10 pm, I can tell how our colleague enjoy the food and the place, for a company average age is 26, they deserve crazy night after long hours of working.
This is also a cross-department meal, you can really observe the behavior of people in different dept and how they communicate and interactive to each other, eating and drinking , no barrier, intimacy then build upon, guess what, after meal, we have to drove more than a hour back to Taipei, some of our lovely friend booked the Cashbox Karaoke bar and prepare to singing all night. this is fine, tomorrow is Saturday, as an elder executive, what I did is to make sure no one drink too much, no one cross the line, and those who drink too much , We don't allow they to drive.
If this is so called team building, I think by far we achieve some. I enjoy seeing them smile.
" Elite of tomorrow " session take place this afternoon, we -- the elites accept Marc Blanc " Star walker " pen form " Elite of today ", it was an interesting session, the Today elite disagree they are only " Today ", since today means pass but the competition ground lays in front of everyone, it doesn't matter you are an elite of tomorrow or today; the forum chairperson PhD, CJ Lee is still charming over 40, 3 managing editor elaborate how they select and pick the elite of tomorrow and what attribution / success formula they witness in the elite; last session is interesting, Dr. Lee asking editor, elites to feel one most important element thy thought to become an elite ( actually, in Chinese translation, they use " Leader -- elite of the elite " ), Mrs. Sung quoted the JPMorgen's definition for leader,
I am an aged elite based on their quateria, over weight -- yes, doesn't a leader must looks healthy? slim is the term for health, right, then I can be elite of tomorrow, since I have time to get on a diet and becoming the stereotype of future leader,
Very interesting session, well, I granted my gratitude to my wife , we know why.
Sound -- my son broke his arm 3 weeks ago due to the misconduct of kindergarten, the sport couch wrongly train the boy under 6 to jump over barricade with camouflage, if the kid didn't make proper judgment, they will fall, but how can a 6 year old boy equip such an experience to avoid falling down. Sound was the first kid to call upon this survival training, so, the tragedy happened, he broke his arm. I was so mad about this misconduct, without my wife cool me down, I was planning to press charge for it.
Today, should be the day for Sound to untie the fix-arm treatment, but the doctor said the recovery was not 100% complete and asking Sound to wear the bindery for another 2 weeks, my wife don't feel comfortable about it, so I call for second opinion, register Sound to another hospital and arrange the clinic time next Wednesday.
Tomorrow shall be a big day for Sound, his graduation from Big Apply pre-school, his first graduation ceremony, but the broken arm and bandage will not making him look handsome, but definitely will be the day he can tell a story -- how I broke my arm at the age of 6.
My VIAO crash 2 days ago, change a new notebook is something you can't really feel comfortable, first, all the synchronized device must be a parted a a while, my COR, my PDA, my writing panel.., second, you can't update what you did before the crash, third, you can't storage what you recorded in you mobile device and always worries about lost of information / data. People too much counting on high tech face the same problem, although we all know that before PC, people works, thing get done and we live happily, since the invention of PC, the working environment changes, people changed, the world changed, the article about productivity is still flesh to me , thanks to new tech, we save 9 10th of the time in working, but don't know how to deal with the spare time, creating unnecessary work, modified unnecessary file, power point, adding communication layer, people don't really have time to enjoy life. Morden world, modern thought, we are still people.
Lunch with Mr, Yen -- Olivagrily Ad. we share some interesting thoughts, such as " it doesn't matter for the pat life, it matters for the life before you " and " what if life begin with an old man, and die in the enfant stage, the life will be so beautiful, from complex to innocent, from suffer to unknown, the reverse of life cycle. "
Been late for bad too long, go to bad after 1:00 am become normal, I don't know this is good or bad, last night, I took the blood pressure, great, normal, then me and my wife talk and talk, I had nightmare last night, a dark man -- I didn't see his face, didn't see his body, but this guy using the fist nod scramble my skull -- the right top scull, I was awaked by this knock, this is not massage, it's someone knock on your head, the past experience is someone step on you and hold you up, you hardly breath and want to get out, you need to scream or shout to escape from it, this time, the experience is new.
I wife feels pity about G-music's Vice Chairwoman, lonely and insecure.
I take the assignment helping GIO -- Government Information Office to reshape the proposal for " Improving culture industry ", this is what I promise before, need to finish the revising today.
Talking to Corbett and exchange idea of the value-added publishing firm for a while, we had a great dinner again last night at the restaurant Irene book for us, the Her-Shing Japanese restaurant, the small but neat place let me feel like eating at home, the cuisine they provide is so tasteful and delicate that I almost forget not to eat too much and spoiled my diet program; although it is not a physical diet program, but it is a mental diet project, the spirit to cease or reduce the desire for eating, and the hungry for gomant food. but Her-Shing is such a great place, it's so good that we only talking about the business for less than 30 minutes then concentrate on the food; well, I don't know it's good or bad, but it can save breath if you really don't want to talk to somebody, bring him to a great restaurant, then simply enjoy the food; I remember James Sung, the chairman of PFP said it once, when eating , don't discuss business, when discuss business, don't eat. if you observe the eating and talking behavior for people over the meal, the one who do the talking seldom eat, if the guy who ate and raise short question, while listing to a long answer, he continue eating, so, what can be achieved during the meal discussion ? I like the theory James developed.
I promise to provide a structure for this initiative next week.
Today, dinner with president of Infoserve, the first ISP in Taiwan who launch their business 11 years ago, he brought his brother in law to the dinner, this is our 4th dinner and second encounter with Mr. Wu, it is so hard to image that we had a mutual friend who running a restaurant business in Chin-Shen, where I plan to take 70 of our staff there on Friday night for gathering; we had a charm and getting quite familiar, I may talk too much, but leave positive impression to the dinner companion; Infoserve is now working on a project with Lucent in the State, it cross with my career plan in next few years, to run a public company in the State, relocate to States with my family. I don't know if the dream will come true, but it worth dreaming.
Mont Blanc Taiwan invite me to be the endoser for the " Starwalker " project , this is to pick up the so called " Elite of tomorrow " , I am flatter , but exciting, although I notice this is a high-level markeing campaign, but I accept it as this will not lower my status, and the elite of tomorrow title will put me on the " Watch List " for business next, it's an interesting event, I will attend the forum on Friday evening, my wife will handle my dressing that day. this sum up today and yesterday.
I knew Leslie because of the JV entity, he heritage not only the family business, but the family quality, nice, understanding, discipline and passion, I never thought of become a friend -- well, this is from my personal perspective, of top 4 families in Taiwan, Koo's family in Taiwan was astonishing all the business people in Taiwan, 4 generation of political and business empire building, Koo hold the resource everyone dream of, what surprise us is the family win most of the respect from difference owner ( From Japanese, KMT and now DPP ) of Taiwan administration.
It's like brotherhood, sometimes we ate along, talk along and share viewpoint along, he is like big brother to me, conducting business relationship then build the personal intimacy to me is a rare and value experience.
Now, the partnership for business may call it an end, I will test if the relationship continued and we do have the shared value to count on, I do hope the big brother treat me like a brother.
Accept of the invitation, I am a little bit exciting, sunshine in my heart even it is raining outside. It will be a Sunny day on Sunday. I am very close to the cross road, or to be specific, the edge of cliff. fall or fly, fall of the body and fly for the soul.... is it true.
Happy to arrange a cross-dept dinner on Friday, this is what I always want to do, create cross-boarder relationship while working, I enjoy injecting the chemistry to people working at the same company, to know each other not in the working environment, to learn to know the other side of your co-worker, and to appreciated the talent delivered by those who so close to us, but we only discover their capability in working, working is part of the life, living and breathing is vital, Friday night, great night.
Last night was a long time for me, I spend 2 more hours communicate with my father, he seems to me a stranger for quite a long time, We haven’t been talk decently for a long long time, although during the Chinese New Year, I brought the whole family to Hunan and visit his hometown and stay there enjoy the first Chinese New Year in China, I thought that's the ice breaking trip, it seems OK, when returned , we did good communication for a while, until the break up between My wife and his ante in law in China; as I really want to tight the family under one roof, to bring back the intimacy as a 3 generation family, so I wrote him a letter, a letter I called it close up of my father, an observation for a son for 40 years, I list 7 points of his irresponsible as a father, a husband and a family person, who escape from a man's responsibility and live his own life, Yes. this is not polite letter to an old man at 80, but, I want to be honest to my true feeling, to face the family problem before it's too late, before everybody feel guilty.
I don't know what the result will be, but 2 hours of open-heart communication, it's taught for me, as I stated in the last sentence of the letter, I won't escape from it as well, next step, I will do the same to my mother, who the intimacy is a distance to me for couple of years; I don't want to change anything, but want to be a mirror , letting family people reflect to his or her behavior as honest , as close, as truth as possible, I don't have big dream but to keep the family live happily under the same roof, my wife, my parent, my kids, this is what I want. a simple dream.
Aita-san came over and join our mangers meeting this morning, he is the first foreign visitor who come to see us after SARS, coincident is Taiwan just remove from the affected area on Saturday. this morning, I found all the mangers speak more and prepare in more in decent way, good sign, but, some of the mangers didn't act normally when report the status, one manager , particular, looks like reporting to him instead of reporting to all the mangers during the session; anyway, this is human nature, you hardly know what behavior people will follow when the environment changes.
This morning, I received the photo from Vincent, an hard evidence show how 4 of us had a good time the other night; one picture was taken for me and Shiao-Bai -- the leader of DOTM. it's a good memories.
we had a recognition lunch with Saint and Water -- 2 top agent in our customer information center, Water worked with the company for one and half year, from the conversation, I know that he love the company and wish to develop his career in our organization, this is a great pay off for me, as we always dream of creating the idea company for people to learn, grow, contribute and develop, Saint learn a great deal of product knowledge and fully integrate the spirit of service, We are lucky to have them stay with us -- from the humble beginning. the thing Water impressed me is he always want to break the record and set a high goal for every challenge he takes; this is remarkable, a person devoted himself to our company and wish to set the benchmark among all the categories. to me, Water is much better than me, I am only the person sending message, he is the one deliver the result, this is the culture differences between us and other players, I shall amp this to everyone in the company, they shall be role models in our company.
I miss the feeing somehow, this is a crossroad for me, I am now stop at the red light, when the light turn to green, shall I drive full gear up or shall I turn right ? Always the question of option, always the question of selection, always the question of alternative.
message left from my father this morning create another typhoon in my family again, approaching 80 years old, I should not complain about him, especially in the traditional Chinese family which value the family ethic a unbreakable ball and chain, but if I wish to tell you a long story about my father, then this novel will turn your viewpoint 180% degree around; I am not prepare to illustrate such a story, I have no time to do it and I am not in the mood to describe these mix feelings.
He always left written message to me or my wife , a note maybe describe very trivial feeling about his opinion about how we deal with thing against his idea, normally in field of family issue or my wife's educational method when teach my son and daughter how to behavior properly; what bother me is, he seldom at home, may one evening or 2 evening at home per week, spend less than 4 hours in total with us, and hardly conduct any conversation with me, he is a stranger to us, how a stranger judge our daily life with strong and bias statement, this is the main reason why me and my wife upset about.
Second, he always buy unhealthy food ( garbage food mainly ) back to please his grandsons for not being at home and play with them, to this, this is a response to his guilty of not performing a grandfather’s role, and to compensate with toy and candy, how can I accept it ?
Third, he shall take care of his wife -- my mother, the same responsibility as I am taking care of my family, we live under one roof, I earned and raise the whole family, but he shall be home to accompany and pay his duty as a husband to his wife, but he fail to do so, the burden fall into the shoulder of my wife, this unfairness generate a distance between us.
Fourth, friends are put before family, he treated friend much important then treat his own family, how can we accept it; knows nothing but left message and accuse me and my wife, I won't take it for grated. I am not saying I will release my duty as a son, but won't respect him as a father, he have been lying to us so many times, a dishonest man deserved no respect.
I need to write it down because I don't want my wife and family to carry additional burden . yes, it's burden, not responsibility, blood is thinker than water, my wife is a outsider, but shall be respected as a family man, not a long term contractor to serve the family until the end of the life.
what I want to say ? no, I just want my wife to be good to herself, I am happy to release from the duty of must be humble as someone's son, no, I won't take it, he didn't deserve my respect anymore.
