Chen Yiu is an employee in our company, he works in engineering dept. we recruit him 3 months ago, after he pass the final interview with COO, COO told me that he is the elder brother of little roger -- who I am familiar with but miss the chance of working together -- I remember send him a letter talking about the " Chemistry " in work place, when having the welcome talk -- which I did whenever there are new employee join us - to follow the interview procedure, unless we are recruiting manger above, otherwise, I will not be in the interviewing table with them, so I inform HR to arrange such a " welcome talk " when the new comer on board for a month, this is the " Platform " I build for knowing our people better; when having this session with Chen Yiu, he told me why he apply for this position in So-net was due to little Roger’s encouragement, I am impressed by little Roger’s mature and never give up attitude. I think this 2 brothers will be big someday.
Today, I invited both of the brother for lunch at Belinli -- A Japanese - Italian restaurant, I initiative this chance to build a sold friendship among us, as Chen Yiu is a tech geek and little roger tend to be in business administration field, they are ideal partner to complimentary establishing new things; we chat during the lunch, one is 14 years younger than me, the other is 16, but when conduct the conversation about WIFI, Wireless internet, new gadget and the career development, I found there's no generation gap between us, I asked what they wish to be by the age of 14, Chen Yi want to be a COO, little roger is more ambitious and want to be the CEO, in return, they asked me the same question, my answers is : maybe a lot of people think I've achieve the goal in my business cycle and treated as the peak of my career, but I don't think so, I am not sure if I am ambitious still to fight for next position, but I think the road ahead is full of excitement and I am willing to take more challenge if opportunity comes, and what I am planning to do now ? well, I would like to influence young and talent people and guild them to the bank of success; Chen Yiu said, because my young at heart make me full of energy to learn and know new things; when our topic move to next new technology, I convey the " Think First before Think Next " concept to them, it seems they are in deep thinking. this is a good meal and I will continue to arrange meal such as these with my young friend.
Wife keep complaining and told me she is trapped in the cage and there's no way to escape, when we drive to dinner, I can't help but stop the car and tell her how I feel and How I wish to solve her problem in mind, the question is : if we can't really chang the relationship such as couple, father and son, mother in law etc, the least thing we do is don't cumulate the dislike and make it thin to a degree you can't stand; she said she is only complain for a hour and this situation continue for 20 years already, my reply to her is : your hours a day to me is " every hours a day for 20 years ", she should also feel my heart. this is how
Hosting a dinner with CIC management team ( CIC represent for Customer Interactive Center -- in short, service or call center )tonight at an old Chinese restaurant, the restaurant had a 55 years history; this is the first time I invited CIC key members for a private and casual dinner, cause I am not so familiar with them and I seldom create the chance for them to know me better; I had a plan to hosting meal with all the dept. key members with my own expenses, as I receive the first bonus from the company in past 3 years, I would like to show my gratitude to those who build the company to where is are today.
the dinner topics is wild, from movie to sports interest to family, I had a good time with them, CIC is the dept. which recruit high-quality people working together, we put the CIC next to main office, it demonstrate we " S. " treated them equal, and we value the first line service staff.
yesterday afternoon, I scheduled 3 performance appraisal in line and having a new round of conversation with the marketing team, which I acting for 3 months and now hand it over the new manager, during the PA and conversation, ( I value the conversation higher then PA, as I am the person who seldom follow the rate / rank / score ), I found the new manager is under pressure, although we had a coffee last week ( she invited me for coffee and seeking my advice to some management issues ), it seems to carry the dept. head burden is heavy for her. I will consult and guild her more next week.
the coffee break with J. this afternoon is good, I am telling " My Story " chapter by carpet to him, by doing so, I subtly guild him and teach him the way I see thing and the way I develop my career after my service to the army.
after the conversation, when walking back to the office, I saw D.S in the hall way, we encounter for a few second, what a coincident, My schedule to meet him is next Monday ( by the time I met him, the schedule haven’t fixed yet ), I called my wife about this surprise, she figure out who I am going to asked and reply to me " treating everything in normal way "
Amos Chang -- primary school classmate come to see me, we had a quick lunch then I go through his thesis and give him my opinion and provide some angles for his continue writing, it seems my simply touch helped, is it strange that I am half way down my own thesis yet worried about my friend. he's been out of work for almost a year, right now he is focus on the thesis writing , I know he need more advise from me, but, I am not in the position to grant career assistance, all I can do is buying him some meal, helping him completed thesis and obtaining degree smoothly, or maybe sharing his informing regarding other primary school students. I fell comfortable when reviewing his article and can easily sequence the order of importance, then provide the “what’s next " scenario to him, I finished everything within 2 hours.
Went back home earlier, I made a joke to COO and said to him that I was invited to attend the President Inauguration Dinner Gala, so, I have to move earlier, the truth is I want to have my dinner at home and enjoy the great food prepared by my wife, my wife is the best chef in the world, I've been busy for month and don't really enjoy her dishes for a while, last night, I made a request for my favorite food, I name 3 of them and wish her can pick one and cooked for me; arrived home, 3 of them present on the dinner table, I am so happy, can't wait to wash my hand, I ate like a wolf, bitter melon stood with pork rib seasoned by black soy bean and garlic is so delicious, you know what, I finish the whole dish.
one month ago, Mr. Shu send me 10 DVD, they are all aged classic movies, as he is the expert in film, and we are going see each other on coming Sunday, I have to study his gift , at least try one of the film before we meet; it's 8:30 pm, my and my wife accommodate ourselves for the DVD, I choose " The Third Man " for screening, as it represented a more " dramatic " feel which may increase our motivation when watching; yes, it is an old movie, but it hard for me to circle it to the classic arena, my wife falling asleep first, I trying not to felt down, but my eyes wouldn't listen, I nod my head for so many times; we finish watching the DVD, but don't really digest it, maybe I should put on the hat of ' man in the 50th ", and put myself in the same space and time zone, then I might appreciate the film technique and story the director willing to express; movie is so objective, you can't force someone to join your army and at the same time, you may not willing to join others.
my skin problem come back again, this is very disturbing, I definitely need to see the doctor as soon as possible, it ruin my ordinary life before, I don't want it occur again.
Avoiding lunch crowd in software park, I took my privilege to arrange my schedule and taking an early lunch today, no business lunch is rare for me, I walk along the park hall and find a tiny little Cantonese Restaurant, what I ordered for lunch is typical Cantonese sweet BBQ pork , thanks for the early bird scenario, I managed to have my first Starbucks by 12:00, the peak hour for Starbucks begin from 1:00 pm, exactly the time when everyone having their lunch and thinking of consume the coffee.
there are not many people in the coffee shop, store manager recognize me and prepare my Latte immediately, when look around the before lunch customers, they were talking business table by table, suddenly an idea come to my mind -- why some conduct business conversation or arrange meeting at their own convenience -- such as you pay visit to him and follow his itinerary; some need to accommodate others' schedule ? This is an unbalanced situation, the cost is different, the position is different; why some can conduct meeting conversation in 5 star hotels and some can only afford coffee shop ( some less-branded coffee chains provide cheaper coffer as well ( in price not in quality ); everyone making living, some live humble for entire life, some climb the corporate latter to the top, some become entrepreneur, and some Hardly make a living at all.
all walk of life share some equal resources : such as 24 hours a day; only live once ; own will to choose his attitude; be happy is a serious matter, as the book I read before, if materially we can matching up, there are other means and measures to live a better life, all I want to say is " you can be happy without decent income " you have the right to choose, don't ignore it and don't let someone control your happiness.
Contribute my other article to So-nether this morning, the article relate to the " Gourmet and Data Mining ", an article I wrote one year ago, it looks fresh to me when reading it this morning; the theme is " Customer Experience Matter ", I don't know how many of our employee will read So-neter -- our inter company publication, and how many will read my article throughout and how many will digest and turn the data to their own knowledge.
I don't know how to open mouth to others and convince them to invest on Eagles live, this is not my way of handling things, I promise Ella to do it this week, but, I really don't know how to open my mouth, I really don't know.
Wife in favor of my second-though about the possible offering, she is not in line with my original idea of “join and change it ", when touch upon the conversation with EMBA classmate and Learn how they analyze conglomerate, I fear that “Professional Manger “will be buried.
the retention meeting this morning is focused on " my website " concept, when raising the question of " who put our side as the top page at their device " and " how to convince them to do so ? ' I found we are not frame the chattels and measure the purpose yet; but when understand this new service is mainly for our subscriber, then I change the strategy of my websites position from top page to " bookmark ", it works, we spend like 90 minutes to discuss how we feel about this service and how our customers expect we to design the my website for them.
I don't get excited when attended the second negotiation session with major carrier for the fair-competition, as we are enter the commercial negotiation environment -- cause there's no excising law in Taiwan can regulate the type 2 telecom's dispute with type 1; as I am aware that all our effort will turn to be the " New Industry Standard ", we play the bad guys, brining foreigner to pressure the government, then all the ISP in Taiwan enjoy what we achieved, then some of the " lousy competitors " may transfer what they earned to a new price war and create another wave of cut-throat competitor.
negotiate price with major carrier while issue complain letter or attorney letter to their supervised governmental body really making the carrier upset. Yes, we should push until the result satisfied our situation. But as all the documents we send stamp my name on it as the " person in charge ", I am carried a big burden as the traitor to our own government, even in all the negotiation table, when bringing together our Japanese colleague, I keep silence almost all the time until some wrongfully accusation point out,. I am not willing to be the " ugly Taiwanese "; this is pity, we are in a competitive world and no way to escape from this rude behavior.
the day before yesterday, I brought P. And J. To New Hama -- suppose the best Tepenyaki restaurateur I Taiwan, after the meal, we sat at the lounge and talking about the company development, I told them the idea of " IPO " next year, J. Is experienced with this scenario and advised me when approaching the conglomerate, be very careful, as I am not their cabinet member, no matte how excellent as a professional manager, once the merge is done, you may only stay for one tenure, if you make decent profit for the company, they will send someone with belt-relationship and replace you -- since the know how is there, why not having their own people to enjoy the fat ? This is how the conglomerate grow and grow.. This assumption shock me, it remind me for my second round of interviewing on next Monday; altogether I kept telling myself we don't have a history before, but I may need to tattoo it in my heart... Be very sensitive about it.
Fruit wait for my return from ping pong exercise last night and told me she fully understanding what I am saying and will change accordingly, I told her what I wish to see is the " factor change " before, it take time and servansance to perform it; I will wait and see.
Monday morning, when COO give a new phase of " sincere service " to all the manager during the manager's meeting, I come up with a supplement about the blind mountaineering -- Eric .... Who at the age of 35 now become the first blind people conquer the St. Everest mountain, what he said is " believing is Seeing " instead of " Seeing is believing ", and he avid the " what if " scenario and replace it with " How can I do with all the constrain ? " it remind me of another bicycle hero -- Armstrong. Man with strong will and great believe achieved, the value is not counted by the figure or the fortune, but the influence and impact they did for the rest of human beings.
today, 520, inaugration ceremony for new President on board -- Chen win without glory shine, big ceremony surround with bullet-proof walls, probable only half of Taiwanese will support him for the next 4 years, but he will never make himself a respective leader in half of Taiwanese mind.
Setting 4 prerequisite with Fruit, it's hard to develop interactive communication with her, as her early rebel stage, I am not sure if the method I approach with help her or not, when received phone from my wife yesterday afternoon, I call Fruit up and made an appointment with her in late night, I told her I will be late for the appointment and wish her wait for me.
I arrived by 10 pm and asked her to come down to the living room, I send my wife back to our room, I will to conduct this itimancy between me and my daughter, she close the door for communication, I can't really know what's in her mind, yes, I am not in the position to learn everything she thought, but to deliver my assistant and helping her fine tune the relationship with the family, with her mother and with the people she contact everyday; since she talked so little , by nodding her head to show her agree and disagree to my preaching, I am a little bit angry and feel frustration, it will never be a health way to communicate if you met someone with this negative attitude.
in order to make my statement clear, I address 4 important line for her to think :
1. thinking why her study getting worst these days and why she can't concentrate on school ? What make her distance from study and why there's no interest stayed ?
2. Learn how to protect her body, as period comes and she is physically mature for pragency,she must know how to prevent her to be a teenage mother, she will never be ready and independence to be the mother before 18, and she is only 12 years old, don't be fooled or cheated by man who want her body only and be realistic to the pain and trauma if abortion arrived.
3. Know what's love and what's fantasy, don't dream about the love in romantic way, as the same age, boy don't develop the maturity as girl and don't know the responsibly about true love.
4. Think who in the family willing to help her when she needed, willing to communicate and embrace her when she's in trouble and how to cherish the happiness she owns now, her good friend in class are the same age as her, no one can physically helping her when she really in need, who will offer her food . Money. Shelter ...
I stop sing off the ' Parent contact book " from yesterday, as this is the only thing she concern about and I value to her is nothing but to sing-off for teacher's review and bring her to good meal on weekend, other than this, I meant nothing to her, this make me so sorrow, I told her , my value to her is means this, then I will never wanted to sing on the contact book , she cared only her teacher's opinion and instruction, but perform totally different at home.
I wrote a long letter to her teacher and asked my wife to bring it over to the class this morning, my purpose for stop sign-off is to train her be independence and make her think hard about the relationship with the family, personal accountability and changer from her bottom of the heart; I will check the status from time to time, as I wrote in the letter, I am not sure if the method I took is in the right direction, but I am running out of good incentive to change her, as I told all my colleague, I can't change anybody unless someone have the desire to change themselves.
Wife asked me to consult with my teacher classmate and dealing with a tough situation, when should I prepare the birth control bill for her , will it too early to exercise it, will it impact on her physical an sociological growth.
The battle between 2 woman continue, my wife and my daughter ( 40 years old and 13 years old )don't see eye to eye for years, it getting worst and worst, now , it seem the diary communication in between is a black hole, the communication is break down; mother complained about the lazy, passive and never appreciate daughter, daughter complain the bias, talkative and mean mother; I can do little about it, when a girl grow to 13 years old and weight exceed her mother, physically she think she is independent, when she spark the feeling of love -- no matter it's true or fake, she think of all the fantasy; the bigger wave hit when her mother found the cosmetic on the back seat of the sedan and asked who bought it; Fruit had to admit she bought it " For fun ", put on make up as the age of 12 may not be weird in western , but in Taiwan, none of the girl in her age behavior this, it worried her mother, I tried to be a nice father and asked her to turn in more cosmetic instruments -- surprise, she bought the whole set of the make up package in Wasons. There must be someone she admired otherwise, there's no motive to dress up / make up for someone, then we found out she made it public telling her classmates who she in foud of -- this need great deal of courage -- I mean in the Oriental Country; She didn't keep good score in her school examination, absent minded at home, all her odd behavior lead to a young girl in love -- the question is, the boy she like don't seems to accept it, he is a 13 years old boy as well.
Her mother is so angry about the recent mathematic examine, she got 62 points, the lowest score in her 5 years of Math study, today, when pick her up from school, her mother told her : Terminate the after school institution study ; no extravagant activity in summer vacation, instead, will find her a part time job in a stationary supplier force her learning how to make a living on her own; I knew the set of action will create a deepen gap between mother and daughter, I called my daughter and probe her feeling toward her mothers' decision, she is fine with this, well, if this is not the idea solution to change her, what else can her mother come out? I am afraid one day they will become totally stranger to each other.
in the morning, introduced Manager to the music intermediated association,IFPI R. is so nice to educate us the update copyright development in the internet era; it's complicate, we stayed there for 90 minutes, the passion he had become the burden I carried -- I feel so sleepy and can't close my eyes.
Monday shall be a day in the office, but I make series of meeting appointment right after the weekly managers' meeting, my sequence of appointment begin with lunch with old time friend -- Yan and the " we don't have cross road yet " artist Shie; as usual, I invited Yen for a chat and lunch and we share and update our where about briefly; it seems I am the person who initiatives the hook up everything and of course pay the bill; we've been knowing each other since colleague days, I am the first amerture promoter promote the first outdoor concert for they " The starry eyes ", we have long history and long story to tell, let's me find a proper time to cover it; Shie -- he is the second artist signed to our company -- me and Yen runs an artist management company together 15 years ago; we didn't contribute to his career as an artist, but turn to be good friend until now; the lunch is quite fun.
after the lunch event, I attended a pitch presentation together with Michael for the artist community service platform project; Dorian is the second target which I instruct our people to pay attention to, the pitch last for an hour, then I rush to Sheraton Hotel for an consulting session, one of the tech company wish to bid for a multi media database project from the government and seeking my opinion about the need from Music industry, they feel stranger why the government official stronger recommend they come to see me before present the proposal, my suggestion inspire these tech geek, I only told them when establish the architecture of the multimedia database project covers varies industry such as Music / Picture / Commercial / Publishing, they should think about the horizontal integration / cross-industry complimentary role in this structure,especially when consider music in the future, it should traveling across the boarder of all the audio / visual industry and be an integal part of other industry -- this might be the music industry next; I think I do make their day ... WOW, what a " Fish " metaphor happening here and now.
5:00 pm is the scheduled event for attending farewell party of Chief commissary in Culture and .... I walked down the escalator and approach the reception table of this party, when sign off my name, I walked in the venue and found no one there I am familiar with, I think I am not belong here, I make a clear decision to leave the party immediately, calling my car and having my driver send me to Regent.
it's 3 hours before my Ping Pong session in Regent, I remember seeing the movie showing time in CSC -- across the street of Regent Hotel, I am lucky, showtime for ' Alcamo " is about to began in 5 minutes, this is a very rare situation for me to go to a movie along, unless I am traveling abroad; Alcamo is a very expensive movie -- I read some article about it, Showtime Cimera is located in a " Club " zone , when get in the dark room, I checked the environment with my eyes, I can easily identify the " mistree " accompany with their lover -- some gentleman is pretty old -- in their 60's I guess, and those ladies at their 30's, they can't reveal themselves under the sun, they can't enjoy the sun together, they don't even enjoy the movie, I shall never taken their seat and be one of the old guy with young lady , this is scared me.
Continue my second day for iFilm festival, although me and my wife stay up very late, I wasn't fully sleep until 3 in the morning, my brain keep working, when my wife asked why,is the new offering in process bothering me? I thinks she is right, if my parent company lost their interest in network business and ignore the milestones we strive to achieved, this is not an idea to stay; if they lost their patient for the long term commitment or if those who support this initiative gone for new business or transfer back to Japan, then we might be the orphan service provider; I have consider a few exit plan now, the most realistic and convincing one it for IPO and finding local partner who keep high interest in network business and seeking opportunity for build up partnership with us, the IPO then can be the driver for employees who have strong believed in us and may be treated as an incentive for working even harder; the other idea come up with having pork rib noodle with my wife in one famous night market vendor yesterday before the movie is to offer our subscriber the right to become our shareholder by giving them stock with par value; this can be treated as the strongest retention project ever, keep the customer and having them be your shareholder ... What a great finding , if this approach doesn't aginst the security regulation in Taiwan, then I may go this creative way.
campaign with 2 kids for homework this morning,my wife went for swimming in the early morning, I guess she slept less than 4 hours last night, I woke up by 8:00 and push boy and girl reexamine their home work and do necessary check up, we plan to eat outside at one seafood restaurant in the neighboring area, the restaurant is so crowded but the food itself is OK, I obtain the information by the fashion magazine -- Taipei Walker, a sister magazine of Tokyo Walker -- coming from Japan introducing Metro fashion and life style such as the in places and new open restaurant / bar.
the iFilm venture continue at 4:30, we sit in the first trilogy -- I can't pronounce the French title, but to translate in my own language , it's call " Re-born ", this is an alternative film talking about a love exist in abnormal situation, a police officer is so in love with his wife and supply her the heroin for 15 years, in order to keep the supply line, he need to trade it with drug dealer.... This is how the story telling.
after the first screen, we head for a quick dinner and found a chain restaurant where me and my wife used to eat before marriage, the taste is so good and the price is less expensive, the chef is every professional, we ordered 4 dished, they serve it in 10 minutes, it gave us the 30 minutes window for next show, which is a great one we thought, again, this Italian film , we don't have a name, the theme is attached to an Italian Love Romance -- a pure and honest teacher falling in love with one blind girl ( she wasn't blind before accident ), she used him as the tool for guiding her revenge and one day, the doctor found her lost sight can be recovered, so when she see the light again, she married to the doctor who cure her eyes, but with no good bye to the one who take care of her during her blindness days; the story is simple but the script is so good and the quality of film is excellent, we are enjoying another great film in 2 days. I feel lucky to buy the package and give my life a fresh look again.
I love movie better than reading, cause it is passive, you only need to sit in the dark for 2 hours, the you will obsorb a great story, whether it deal with life / art / love or history; it create a brand new space for me to digest and stimulate my thinking in different angle; I will go to the movies as much as I can and as broad as possible.
I have a problem writing with elegent vacabuary, when reading magazine ( English ), I seldom check the dictionary for the new words I know understand unless this is the " Key word " which block me from reading; I don't have a good method to improve the writing elegency, maybe I should begin using my dictory more often, but no matter how rich my vacabulary enhanced, as I don't use them frenquenty, I don't think I will memorize them all , this is a delemma to me,.
